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Ebooks now available

I’m happy to introduce a new feature at dear person obits—two inexpensive ebooks: Writing an Obituary in Four Easy Steps and Writing Your Own Obituary in Four Easy Steps.  Each 25-page ebook includes: • A look at six things most meaningful obituaries have in common …read post

Why we name the cause of death

I know this might be a sensitive topic for some people, and it is also one on which I am opinionated, so I’m just going to come right out with it. It is important to name the cause of death in an obituary, preferably early …read post

Why would you write your own obituary?

A recent article in The Guardian reported that dying “well” in a “planned and personalized way” has become a bit of a trend. “One of the chief desires of our time is to turn everything we touch into a reflection of who we are, how …read post

The time capsule of an old tribute

The first person I knew well who died was also the first person I “went out with,” though in actuality we went very few places aside from walking home from school together. We held hands until there was a car coming and then I’d let …read post

Anatomy of a great obit

Avid readers of obits know when we’ve found a good one. For many of us the pursuit of a well-written tribute is why we’re reading the obit page in the first place. To get someone’s essence just by reading words on a page or on …read post